|Written by Cyndee Peters|
|Tuesday, 10 March 2009 00:00|
No it wasn’t a typo. I didn’t mean designer jeans, I meant exactly what I wrote. Oh, this isn’t my clever play on words, its life-coach/author Iylana Vanzant's. I encountered this in her wonderful no-holds-barred book, Just for Today, where she dishes up short, daily wake-up calls for the soul. Some of her insights about how we sometimes behave or rather misbehave are quite sobering.I’ve read several of her books and I feel she genuinely cares as she shares her own experiences in a revealing yet impersonal way, so we can draw our own conclusions and take appropriate action. That is, if we want to. The choice is always ours. And be warned this is not a “I will help you feel good about feeling bad” kind of book. Nor is it full of lightweight advice about how we can get around doing what we all know we should.
And if you think she is hard on her readers, it is nothing compared to the blows she delivers to herself when describing how she used to be.
Well, you can tell by now that I am one of her biggest fans. And even though she has, at times, really had me in corner, I have never, ever regretted buying her book. It has had a profound affect on my life.
You know what? I‘m going to give you a present; a“get out of jail free” card. You know, like in Monopoly. Here it is. Since you didn’t know any better then, you are forgiven. The question is, what are you going to doing NOW?
Betraying who you really are, for the sake of others, just to get out of being you? Are they worthy of such self-sacrifice? Well only you can answer that one. But one thing is for sure, you can not blame them for how it makes you feel. You have a life to live and it is your responsibility to live it! But if you want to hand that responsibility over to others and still you don’t feel any better, then STOP COMPLAINING!
Because I’ve been there; done that. And I have vowed to never put myself in those situations ever again. At some point in time we all have to realize and accept that the statute of limitations has long since run-out on all things we can blame others for.
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www.cyndeepeters.com March. 2009